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A visit was planned, my suspicions were high.� I contacted the nurse just to ask why.� I found out he was lying, he wanted her back, but my ticket was bought and I listened to his lies about how she was stalking him, not really wanting him gone.�� He claimed he had to ignore her on ICQ, and her harassment had to stop.� So away I flew 2500 miles to be certain.� While I was over head in a plane rocked by storms, he's meeting the 36 year old, spinning yarns galore and kissing her too.� I landed and we went out, him having a hard time figuring out who I was.� He told me he loved me and held me tight all night long.� After 3 days, he went back to work and I snooped his computer finding love letters to girls.� I read the letters scared as can be and continued on to ICQ histories.� That he was lying was clear, so I called a cab, packed my bags and left for a plane 4 days too early.� I called him from Portland just to say don't call me and he threw a fit telling me I should have stayed it was only a misunderstanding.� Then quietly I told him I'd read it all, and I knew he'd been lying again and again.� He REALLY yelled then, the only time I'd ever known him to pitch such a fit. So I hung up the phone and called a hotel, I had 12 hours to kill before my flight.

He hung up with me and called 36, he told her he'd kicked me out of the house early and could hardly wait to see her.� As I slept alone, he was plotting how to get her in bed while talking to several others.� I arrived home to messages from him.� I cried and I cried too tired to hold it back.� He said he wanted to work it out, 36 unknown to me, a momentary memory for him.� Wisconsin would call, chats by yahoo were fewer with her working on her relationship and him on something newer.� There was a new one in town, super sexual he described her, wanted 36 to meet her in a menage a` trois� .� He carried on with 36 whenever he could, telling me he was working, calling was no good.� He was still cruising looking online for love he thought he could find.� With me my heart breaking a man I did meet.� I went a few times, just to feel better about me.� He met several women, but his luck was running thin, none really wanted to meet, so he spread his horizons, by now he was up to 5 chat programs alone.� I discovered on his webpage, a guestbook so I had to look.� Inscribed within were signatures of girls all expressing how wonderful he'd been.� That led to a friend of mine finding Shannon, who's heart he broke when she learned he was lying again.� Then there was Bev, the client and Jen the friend, and of course I threw a fit.� He swore up and down, they were nothing but friends, but he'd been in bed for months with Bev and calling Shannon every night.

He began talking to my best friend, to see if he could speak to me through her again.� I had grown weary of promises he never could keep, the guestbook too fresh in my mind and� broken up with him and quietly walked away, about 2 weeks did it last.� She talked to him and he began to formulate a plan.� A web cam he would buy since he couldn't come to me, we could talk fact to face via pictures on screen.� Now let me tell you about this cam, my shy, shy sweetie was actually an exhibitionist in hiding.� X-rated pics he did send out to women he wished to sleep with....a calling card or application, it's hard to tell, but what I do know is THAT was the reason for that cam, not the innocent saving of his heart.� All this unknown to my friend, she talked me into speaking with him again and I gave in knowing my heart still loved him.� With web cam working we talked a bit and he promised to come visit, just as soon as he could.� But money was tight, the job he had lost and� had not found a new one (with all the long distance calls and gifts he was buying, I guess he wouldn't have the money).� But what I much later found out, was he was still with 36, but added one SD.� After a month of romance and chats galore, SD decided to meet him, one date to explore.� While 36 sat at home, and I sat there too, he was out on the town a movie to view.� SD was not impressed so no more dates were instore.� There was still Debbie in NY whom he was speaking, he held her webpage on his server for her.� He emailed her and collected pictures and dreams, and after sending flowers for Valentines Day, she dumped him without a word, he was hurt yet again.� Wisconsin involved now, SD long gone, 36 too busy and me too far away.� He spent more time on new handles in a program called Firetalk, he knew it just had to be the ticket.

Now bear with me on timing, it's really hard to do, he was steady telling me he wasn't seeing anyone or planning to.� There was Sky from AZ and Debbie from NY and an intriguing friend from CO and the Dom from MI.� Valentine's Day was murder with 36 giving him a gift, and me wanting a card, he spent the day making an animation for his Debbie from NY.� He got it from all sides that night to be sure, 36 and me telling him he didn't need to spend money, it should come from the heart and NY ignoring him.� Soon Sky turned to another and Debbie blocked him, and CO was too busy as my birthday came close.� My friend reminded him and he brought me a fine gift, a large leather covered diary for me to keep my poems in.� He claims he likes my writing, I wonder how he'll like this!

Still naive to the games he played, I allowed him more time as he promised to come, but never could find the time.� Up all hours of the night,� I wouldn't have had time either!� He claimed money was the problem, and he still wasn't seeing anyone so I bought him a ticket thinking I would help, but he returned it, saying he wanted to do it himself.� I don't know her name, the one that made him stay, but by the 31st I had told him it was over.� That night he found the money and bought a ticket, 2 stops and he'd be here 9:30 at night.� I still didn't know, he swore there was only me, but he told his girlies it was army buddies to see.� Now, I might have been on a post or two, but my boys are too young to have inlisted for long.� No where near that army post did he even go with post 150 miles from me, no army buddies are we.� 3 days into the visit, he got busted, ICQ histories are a bitch, Rhonda showed up as the reason for this.� Talks of dates, sex and sex toys, got him in hot water with me.� Then came the next married one, the other he'd dropped, you see he can cheat, but you certainly can not.� This married one wants him and after a chat, I found he had spoken the truth when he said they were just friends.� He still had Miss Rhonda to deal with and tell, the truth of his stay I wanted him to tell.� After fighting a lot over emailing her the truth, I decided to let it ride just this once to step back.� He told me he loved me and he wanted to be with only me, no one else would he see.� He bought a shot glass at the airport for Jim? (Okay, if you got the shot glass, email me, we gotta talk!) and kissed me hard, his parting words were I love you, we will work it out!

Gone was he on a flight back home, all hell about to break loose as his lies begin to unfold.� He left here telling me he would move back for the summer and I searched feverishly for a job for him.� He elaborated more that he'd give up his house back home, but he had to find out if Mom would be moving soon.� So I waited and waited, still not knowing about them.� 36 was back with a problem with her computer, a new one wandered in, I didn't know she was from before.� Another appeared in an email to him that again added 4, unknown to me.� In a call one night, I could hear his excuses of why he couldn't make plans to move, so I offered to move there, to see what he'd say, he blew up at me and I turned away.� Two days later I discovered on my phone, a message LOVE YOU on login was done.� I asked him about it, he said that's how he felt, so we sat down to talk, he said he loved me and wanted to start over, I still didn't know about them.� So in the conversation I asked him please, could I build my trust with him by checking on him please.� Did I have his permission to find out the truth to the lies I suspected from nights spent sleepless.� He told me to do what I had to do and he told me he wanted to start over, words said untrue.

36 was driving him crazy, her computer not fixed, me I got angry and told him to get.� There was the email pal still around, trying to set dates and then there was the other sending ecards and calls.� How does he find the time to sleep, I still wonder at all.� I started to talk to women here and there, I logged into his email, after all I did see fit, to find the truth to the lies he told.� I contacted women, far and near and found out about the chat programs around.� His passwords were easy, after all I've known him for years.� I logged into each, and gathered the names and� histories when I could.� My email was busy, my fingers did fly asking questions and wondering why.� You have no idea how many women there were, he became angry and started to lie (NOT a surprise) about me being crazy and stalking him for days....just check the histories at the bottom and see what you think.� Women told me their stories as I told them mine, I've made some new friends and discovered the truth.� There are still many he runs around with.

Lots and lots of names, some I can't fit into the time line.� There is still CC, and the emailer, the ecarder as well, the girl from VA, I still don't know her name and he's recently met more via singles listing too!� 36 has learned the truth, there are ones who believe him when he says I'm crazy.� I ask you, a person searches running so many, can he really be happy lying to himself?� I prepared a small email, well, quiet large really that explained my findings in deal I feel, included within were histories and conversations and sent it to him, and a few others.� It's the best proof I've got that he lied and still does, how does one get so lost in their own game.� I have found the truth, bitch that I maybe, but I asked him many times not to lie and to stay home from here if he wasn't going to tell me the truth.� But a game he wanted to play and a game I can play, I don't have any secrets and I haven't told any lies (see My Part at the bottom)

The documentation to my story follows below, there is a lot to read, I'll be the first to tell you so.� But ladies pay close attention, he'll find you too, listen when your gut tells you to look further than you do.� Ladies with children, he prays on us, he thinks we are stupid, vulnerable and easy.� I am angry yes, but more embarrassed to say, that I believed him, every word that he did say.� I'm moving on now with a wonderful guy and I hope that you've learned something from this story online.� The predator that's the loser that's the moral here.� Read the conversations below and see what you think.� Guys don't immortalize him....he's a fink!

Update:
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Sun, 28 May 2000 03:22:11-0700
From: Balor
To: Jumpher

Yes I lied and I cheated.....oddly enough that is cause I don't trust
any woman for anything. When I start feeling that they are talkin about
something more than I think they should I start looking elsewhere....
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Well, if this were true, then he should have told me LONG ago.� The fact is he worked hard to make sure I stayed, anyway you look at it, he has been cruel and should have taken responsibility instead of lying.� Later he elaborated to basically say that for the last 3 years he's not cared a bit and he just used me.� Well, I hope you had fun Josh, I hope you got your laughs and your jollies.
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